An Op-Ed by Ada Perslons
As children, we are always taking in new information. We attempt to follow what our parents do and try to be like them. For example, if a kid sees their parents exercising, they might begin to show interest in doing so. My Dad loves to play golf, so I often go to the course to play with him. Parental influence is important in many ways, including particularly for substance use. It is important for parents to be intentional about the behaviors they are modeling around their own substance use. Is it something they want their kids to follow? Have open and honest communication about substances and how they can affect your lifestyle.
I have had effective conversations with my parents about substance use. They have shared their and others’ experiences with me and lessons learned. My parents encourage me to ask questions, share my thoughts, and fully understand all of the consequences of my actions. My parents make it very clear that they are here for my support and guidance, rather than to try to dictate my every move. By being open minded and understanding, they have created a safe space for me to learn about substance responsibility which will impact choices I make throughout my life, and hopefully make better ones.
While Marin County is rated the #1 healthiest county in California, it has one major exception: underage substance use. According to the latest California Healthy Kids Survey, 39% of 11th graders in Marin County reported alcohol use in the past month, surpassing the state average of 29%. Within the Tam Union School District, this figure rises to 47%. Something is going on in Marin that isn’t in other communities. From the perspective of a young person growing up in Marin, I think the origin of this problem has to do with parental influence.
In addition to modeling, having meaningful discussions about the dangers and consequences of substance use can demystify the topic for children and adolescents. If parents create a supportive environment when having conversations like these, children have the information and tools to make better decisions. Even though it might not seem like it, kids hear their parents' concerns, which is why it is vital for them to have conversations about use of alcohol and other various drugs. If parents are understanding, rather than judgy, their kid is more likely to respect their opinions. It is never too late to talk with your kid openly about substance use.
Why should we pay attention to the topic of drugs and alcohol? Approximately 3,300 kids, as young as 12, experiment with marujanna for the first time each day (samhsa.gov). Additionally, almost 5 out of 10 children as young as 12 use prescription painkillers for non-medical reasons. Ignoring the issue is making the crisis worse. When it comes to alcohol and other substances, children don't necessarily have all the information. Parental silence on the dangers of underage alcohol use and drug use may lead to children believing that using alcohol and other substances is harmless. Parents having a talk with their children enables them to establish clear expectations on alcohol and other substances.
Parents play a critical role in educating and setting boundaries for substance use among their children. Open, honest, and supportive discussions about the effects of substance use can give kids the information to make better decisions. By taking action now, through healthy modeling and meaningful conversations, parents can significantly influence their children's choices and impact their future with substances. It is never too late.